Join me (and bloggers) at Victim Ala Mode, Mist Club this Sat!
General, Parties & Events September 18th, 2009
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A HELP University College and SML Fashion Academy Collaboration Project
Join me and bloggers at Victim A la Mode, this Saturday: a fashion show help to raise funds for the HELP Matriculation Annual Ball, as well as for charity on behalf of both the collaborating colleges. The show will also feature collections from Giordano, Rebellz and of course, 9 of SML’s young talented designers, including a special showcase appearance from Julia Leong, a MIFA Best Casual
collection award winner, a MYDC finalist, and also a Triumph Inspiration Award finalist.
The event will be held at the Mist Club, Bangsar, commencing at 8pm on the 19th of September 2009. The runways will be blazing nonstop with collections that range from casual everyday wear by Giordano, to sexy pieces from
Rebellz and the avant-garde by SML’s finest young designers.
Ticket prices are RM20 pre-event and RM25 at the door. Tickets can be booked through Sandra at 012-260 4218 and can also be purchased around booths set up at various colleges and also at the door of the event.
Check out the Facebook page here for more info. Over 250 people have RSVPed and we are expecting a large crowd.See you there!
Twas Fun at #TwestivalKL! Photos & more!
General, Parties & Events, Twitter September 17th, 2009
The ones I can spot: @scamboy, @nikicheong, @manda_lew, @smashpop, @friedbeef, @benjicajess, @joshlim, @bryanlyt, @elainedaly, @willsquah. Photo from Dustyhawk. More photos from him here.
Kuala Lumpur’s biggest Twitter gathering/party, Twestival KL was held recently and I was there! Look carefully, the handsome one in the center above, dark glasses, right below the girl with the hat.
Check out more photos @smashpop's blog.
The event attracted over 200 people and raised about RM11,000 for Destiny Starting Point, the chosen charity for the event. TwestivalKL is part of the global Twestivals.
What are Twestivals? A Twestival or Twitter-Festival is a global series of events organized by volunteers around the world under short timescales, which bring people offline for a great cause. Twestival is run 100% by volunteers and independently from any not-for-profit; although the organizing teams do work closely to outline an achievable and measurable fundraising target. Twestival also sets out to identify key skills of volunteers and match these with the needs of the cause; particularly communications strategy, tech integration and social media training. Twestival Local takes place in cities around the world : 10-13 September 2009. From: http://twestival.com/twestival-local-2009/
So what do people do at these gatherings?
- Camwhore! Many DSLRs, cameraphones and point and shoot cameras were seen.
- Tweet! Check it here: #twestivalkl
- Eat & Drink: 1901 Hotdogs, New Zealand Natural Ice Cream (my fav), Tiger Beer
- Talk: Because it’s fun to talk in real life too!
So…in conclusion:
I’m surprised how many people there I knew who tweet. Including those that I follow, and those that I didn’t know who tweeted.
Strangely enough, I did not tweet while there (though I did add someone to my follow list). In the interest of not letting Twitter take up all my free time, I mainly only tweet from the web (not on my mobile).
All in all, it was a great event for a great cause.
Congratulations to @nikicheong, @ling_chan, @radianceleong, @suanie and more (I don’t know all your names, unfortunately) for a job well done organizing the event. Also thanks to the sponsors: @1901HotDogs, @AirAsiaBlog, @AirAsiaDotCom, @BoostMalaysia, @CzipLee, @DiGi_Telco, @Lenovo_MY, @littletrinketco, @MistClubBangsar, @nznMY, @pokenasia, @RawPixelStudios, @StarbucksMY, @Text100MY, @TheCupcakeChic, @TheStar_RAGE
Lastly, you want to follow @joshlim on Twitter. 
Be my #789th follower and beyond!
These are a few of my favourite OM NOM NOMS!
General, Sharing September 8th, 2009
So yeah. I made a list of what I like to eat, off the top of my head. Not to actually eat off the top of my head (I prefer to use a plate). What’s yours? Let me know if you share some of my favourites! Check it out below:
I’m doing this to work out a monthly menu for myself - I’m trying to eat out less OR eat better, and looking into a way to have “home cooked” or “catered” food prepared each month. It dawned upon me there’s no catering service in where you can request a custom menu, so it got me thinking - let’s make a list of what I like, and see if I can get it sorted. And no, of course I’m not at the level to afford a personal chef. Haha.
Why don’t you make a list of what you like to eat (this could be a new blog meme, lol)…it tells you something about yourself! Here’s what I’ve learnt:
- So far its good to note that most of the things I like are somewhat healthful. Tip of the day (use this to impress your friends) - it is incorrect English to say “healthy breakfast”. The correct term is “healthful”, as in “healthful breakfast”.
- I’m not a big fish eater, and when I do eat it, I usually eat it raw (sashimi).
- I’m not adverse to vegetables.
- I could probably adapt to a Mediterranean or Japanese diet.
- Seeing this list, I could probably cut down on sugar quite a bit seeing there aren’t many sweet items here. My main sugar intake seems to be from caffeinated or carbonated drinks.
To do: Create a more comprehensive list that includes breakfast, snack and dessert items. Thanks to Rebecca for the scan!
Oh and btw I would like to welcome myself back to blogging, after about 2 weeks of not doing so. A lot has been going on, including the recent The Ugly Truth movie screening, various parties and…and…a new Advertlets partnership that I will be announcing soon. Stay tuned
Goodbye Samantha. I’m going to miss you so much…
General July 9th, 2009
I haven’t been updating this blog as much as I wanted to recently. A significant amount of my time has been spent at home with a slim, dark beauty. Now that she’s gone, I can’t help but miss her. She wouldn’t tell me her name, but I named her Samantha.
Meet Samantha…
She was a…46″ LED TV from Samsung!
I got it for only a few weeks on loan from Samsung, as a gadget review opp. This TV costs 7 times the average salary of a fresh graduate here. But man, it is worth the price.This is probably my first in-depth hardware review ever. And I made sure to test like, everything.
Wii games, DVDs, AVI files (yes, it plays DivX compressed AVI files, through USB), MP3 files and the internal entertainment functions. There’s even support for the Apple iPod built in (I got to test it with the new iPod I won from Ruumz.
Here’s a better look at her:
As you can see we had lots of fun together….the full review is coming soon in parts, but check out some of the pics! In case you can’t tell, these are pictures taken off the LED TV itself:
Some of these screenshots will look very unfamiliar to you (if you’re a dizzy teenage girl, you can probably recognize one picture there, hehe). Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing a bit more about my experience with Samantha, okay, the Samsung LED TV (covering the TV specifications, features, picture quality) - and also about my tastes for some music, games and TV series/films that you are likely to have never heard of before (a lot of them pictured above), but are totally awesome.
There’s a certain band I’ve been listening to everyday for the past few months. Yes, that good.
All in all, seriously - you know how it is if you’ve dated someone really amazing before, and everyone after that just pales in comparision? (see the last item here). After Samantha, it’s going to be quite hard to get used to my old projection TV again. Sigh.
Ogle Sam’s beauty here - samsung.com/my/led
Other than that…
The past few weeks have been pretty busy.It’s been a nice mix of productivity and fun especially over the past few days… The PJ Challenge ‘09 Blogger’s Karnival, Kim & Josiah’s wedding, going down to Singapore to catch up with clients and bloggers, training for the upcoming MY-NPL Paintball Tournament with my team, the Yakuza Tora, the Ruumz Most Wanted Finalist Party (go vote for Advertlets Bloggers Derek & Amanda), watching Transformers 2 twice, and various Tweetups (woot, now got 600+ followers!)
By the way, most of these pictures show my new haircut (except the one with the headshot).
You like? So far, 90% of people (especially the girls) seem to think I look better with short hair. I think I look like, 5 years younger! Which makes me look my actual age, ironically enough.
L-R, Top to bottom: Kim & Josiah’s wedding (2 pics), Honeymeow’s birthday in Singapore, Transformers 2, PJ Challenge ‘09 Blogger’s Karnival, Headshot from a paintball, the Ruumz Most Wanted Finalist party
Ahem ahem. It has some to my attention, that some of you get the impression that all I do is party. Reading this blog though, I don’t blame you, haha.
Here’s my secret on how I actually get work done - I don’t sleep a whole lot.What you don’t see is the proposal writing at 3AM, the back to back meetings during the day…and lots of time hunched over my netbook. Today alone, I met 5 people today for work, which leaves me only nighttime for my blogging. Not very good for my insomnia.
What’s interesting though is that although I can’t reveal much here, the past few weeks have consisted of laying the foundation for some major developments with my web2.0 blog ad baby, Advertlets. While I’m itching to announce them soon, it will be revealed here in due time.
Let’s just say that I’m as excited about them as I was when I first started Advertlets, and that can only be a good thing for all of you involved.
More on these recent events (I know you want more pictures, don’t worry) AND the sexy Samantha over the next few weeks…Now if you excuse me, I have to cry.
There’s no more slim beauty waiting for me when I get home anymore…
Things You Didn’t Know About Fast Food Delivery in Malaysia
Ask Josh!, General, Sharing June 17th, 2009
Warning: This article may make you fat. (Or fatter than you already are). In celebration of my weight stabilizing at 62-63 KG (average BMI), thanks to supplements and minimal amounts of exercise, I have been eating in pretty often.
Here are some tips I’ll like to share with you so you don’t need to bother with the whole ‘have to get up, wear clothes, then walk out and actually enter restaurant and buy food’ kind of thing:
If you push the one in front, the rest will all fall like...Domino's!
Domino’s Pizza - Tel: 1-300-888-333
Pro-tip: Dominos vouchers are “infinite.” Got an expired Domino’s voucher? Give them your coupon code and ask them if they can honour it. Most of the time, they will - and they will give you the discount, as well as give you new coupons. The free contoured Coke glass they have in conjunction with the Terminate Your Hunger promo currently is pretty cool, look for the Terminate Your Hunger packages. The last time I checked though, the stocks for the glasses were sold out.
Direct link to Domino’s delivery menu.
Ah Lonald ah, why you so happy one?
Ah Lonald ah, why you so happy one?
McDonald’s - Tel: 1-300-13-1300
Direct link to McDonald’s delivery menu.
Breakfast tips (especially if you work late, this is useful)
McDonald’s McDelivery is 24 hours. After 4AM, breakfast is available. However, the regular menu isn’t available.
Looking for a healthy food that tastes good and passes out unprocessed when you do your thing? McDonald’s serves corn too!
Most people don’t know that McDonald’s serves corn. I’m pretty pleased with the condition of the corn most times. Except for when I asked for ‘Corn in Cup’, and they asked me ‘What flavour? Chocolate or Strawberry?’. And also, when they gave me SUGAR for my Corn in Cup instead of SALT.
Are you so damn lazy that you can’t walk out to get food, you can’t walk out to get cigarettes either?
Most of the time, its very possible that you can get the delivery boy to go and buy you cigarettes (or other junk) as well. Just ask. And give a tip. RM2-RM3 is good. If it’s the same guy, he’s even more likely to do so.
Say 'Peri-Peri!'
Say 'Peri-Peri!'
Nando’s - Tel: 1300-88-6555
Has delivery, although it is mostly underpromoted. They close at 10:00PM though. I’m pretty pleased with the service in general, especially because the Coke comes ice-cold (they sometimes include a bag with ice), and also, they use stylish environmentally friendly paper bags instead of plastic.
Direct link to Nando’s Delivery Menu.
Even if your place is a dump, you can still get room service as if it's a hotel!
Even if your place is a dump, you can still get room service as if it's a hotel!
Room Service - Tel: 1300-886-886
Room Service Deliveries Malaysia/Singapore serves stuff from Chilli’s, Friday’s and various expensive restaurants around Bangsar. They only cover PJ/Bangsar, KL/Ampang, Sunway/Subang.
The RM10-RM15 delivery charge is ridiculous, but its worth the hassle if you’re craving a pasta carbonara or a nice juicy burger and thick fries, and you don’t want to settle for McD’s. Good for ‘at-home’ dates with your girlfriend or mistress.
Burger Queen is sexy.
Burger Queen is sexy.
As For Other Outlets…Not Yet…
And of note, if any of you relevant marketing folks are reading this, the top restaurants I would like to see offering delivery in Malaysia are: Yoshinoya, Burger King, KFC, & Carl’s Jr.
Lastly, I recommend you tip your delivery boys. Considering that they earn RM800-RM1200 a month at most (based on my estimate), give them a RM2-RM5 tip, simply because they are the faithful enablers of your lazy gluttony.
Have a happy time getting fat! Toodles!
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Relationship problems that you might not know you have…
General June 2nd, 2009
So lately there’ve been lots of event pics and parties on this blog. I guess you guys seem to like them, as this blog by yours truly recently made it to the top 100 blogs in Malaysia. Woot! And it’s now number #69, nice number. Not bad considering this blog started just on 6 Jan 2009.
While I do try my best to take effort in writing detailed event overviews, introducing the people that I take pictures of and try to take nice pictures of them, even Photoshopping off their pimples (see I’m so thoughtful), the whole thing still strikes me as kind of shallow.
When I started this blog, I intended that besides keeping my readers entertained, I would also be able to make them think, and at the very most pretentiously ideal, hope that I can spark a wave of more intellectual blogging.
So, it’s time to plumb the depths. Time to get emo-emo. Time to think think.
This picture isn't entirely related to the post. But it is pretty damn funny la.
So, I haven’t been getting as many questions that I have wanted for the Ask Josh section.
Or actually, the problems I’m getting are way too specific, and I cannot post them up because then people would know exactly who the problem asker is. Some are bloggers. Hehe. Of course, cannot reveal who la.
So, in an effort to create more submissions for the Ask Josh section, I am presenting you…Problems That You May Not Know You Have!
Please take this as a thought exercise - not all these cases are based on real life people that I have encountered. In an effort to make this different from the usual Ask Josh posts, I offer no solutions whatsoever to the problem in this post (I may later), but rather, would want to spur my blog readers to discuss this further.
* I realise this may be a bit cruel, or create unnecessary problems. So, please do not read the following items below if you are currently dating someone, or in a relationship, or married or wish to remain blissfully ignorant. Thank you!
So, have you stopped to think that:
All the same one.
All the same one.
Your partner doesn’t ‘like you just the way you are’, but rather ‘fethisizes’ your type.
For example, let’s say you are overweight. Have you considered that perhaps he doesn’t like you in spite of you being fat, but because you are fat. There’s nothing wrong with liking people that are ‘different’ than stereotypical society’s perception of beauty, but what if he ONLY felt attracted to irregular standards of beauty?
It’s like the difference between your partner saying that ‘you have nice feet’, and your partner having a ‘foot fetish’.
Would you feel disturbed if he was of normal weight, and ONLY dated obese women? All his girlfriends so far have been obese. Let’s say he’s 5′8, 65KG, and he only dated girls who are 80KG (and below 5′6) and above.
Why this is scary: Imagine all of your partner’s ex-girlfriends in a room together. He doesn’t like you, but likes the idea of your type.
What do you think...true?
You are boring and wooden (but reliable), and your girlfriend is servicing her emotional needs elsewhere
Let’s say you’re an ace in bed, and very hemsem. Okay la, and you’re also very rich and generous. But somehow your girlfriend feels the need to talk to other men about her deeper thoughts and feelings, because you’re a plank of wood - she doesn’t feel you’re emotionally available or the type that listens. So she calls other people to cry about you. And you don’t know.
Why this is scary: You may be emotionally unavailable your whole life due to this being your fixed, actual personality, and this may become a consistent problem with all your future partners. Because this kind of thing tends to be pretty important among women.
This picture is here because she is hot. And also, turned up in a Flickr search for 'relationship'
This picture is here because she is hot. And also, turned up in a Flickr search for 'relationship'
You will never be able to date someone better than your current partner.
Most of the time, people never resolve to date someone worse than who they are dating currently. You ‘trade-up’, and don’t aim to lower your standards further as time progresses. But what if you already reached the pinnacle?
Let’s say this guy has a damn chun girlfriend. At an early age, say, 20-22. And he has perhaps the hottest girlfriend he will ever have. She’s like the whole package, beauty, funny, intelligent, caring and everything.
How is this a problem? There are a few things to worry about here - first thing, this may be the best girl ever, and assuming if there is ever a breakup, no one else will be able to top her, and you will compare
ever partner in future to her. This puts an insane amount of pressure on the relationship. And you know that pressure and relationships don’t go well.
Why this is scary: As above. If you ever break up, then how?How can your heart go on and love?
If you’ve read up to here, I hope you had fun. Have a good week ahead, lol.
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According to a blog post on TwitterFacts, in 2008, there were only 3429 Twitter users in Malaysia. Seems a bit low, yes? So it’s 2009 now, what’s the latest stats?
*This is a quick post, written after about 45 minutes of research. I will be updating this as I get more information.
Picture from MuhammadAmirul
Malaysia Boleh BerTwitter? One source seems to point that there are 120,000+ Malaysian Twitter users.
It’s 2009. Here’s some possibilities: According to Wefollow, there are 120,586 users tagged under Malaysia. (June 01, 2009). An article by @nikicheong in The Star (Malaysia), says that: ‘Taking into consideration the upward trend of new users worldwide (in the United States, there was a 131% increase between February and March this year, reports ComScore) and that many users do not disclose their location, it is a safe assumption that tens of thousands Malaysians are currently Twittering.‘
MohdIsmail thinks there is no way to know for sure. The WeFollow stats are very much dependent on people being honest about their location, and tagging themselves. But also to note, is that is possible the number can skew higher - not all the Malaysian Twitter users I know are on WeFollow. Why it’s a good number to base on:
- WeFollow is used by those who are mostly active on Twitter - not many newbies seem to be registered there.
- I follow quite a few of those there, and have met some in real life.
- There’s little incentive to create fake accounts and pretend you’re in Malaysia.
- There’s a fair number of famous Twitter users in Malaysia, including celebrities and businessmen.
Points of contention, why it might not be a good number:
- There may be bugs in how users are grouped on WeFollow. As you cannot see who are the lowest ranking users.
- The WeFollow tag page for Malaysia only goes all the way back to Page 8. The last user on that list #186, seems to have only 4 followers
- Some people do not disclose their real location - or it could be listed as Kuala Lumpur, Perak etc instead of Malaysia which makes searching by location difficult.
Other items worth noting:
Image from The Star
Malaysia is ranked #26 on TwitterScore, in a listing of top countries on Twitter.
There are at least 1000 Twitter users in Malaysia listed on TwitterHolic. As the list cuts off at 1000. To be fair it’s a listing of top users, so they don’t show the ones below.
Siapa Tweeter Yang Benar? ‘True’ Tweeters
Then you have that whole problem of which are the ‘true users’. The active users. Nielsen Online says that 60% of Twitter users (internationally) have stopped using the service after joining. Which means only 40% are active? Or less? For the purpose of this quick post, I will not go into this.
Are Malaysian Twitter users a vocal or significant enough crowd?
Image from Amanz.my
Are we a significant enough crowd? I think, yes. When a hot/controversial local piece of news, like Datuk Seri Mohamad Nizar Jamaluddin being announced as the Menteri Besar of Perak, it got into the Top 10 Trending Topics on Twitter as ‘Nizar’. ‘BarCampKL’ also became a trending topic before too. Source: (Amanz)
Things that this post does not (yet) cover, and other questions that arise (that need more research)
- How did TwitterFacts get his graphs on Malaysia? It’s not stated, and there seem to be no tools.
- What is the percentage of Malaysian followers for say, the top 100 Twitter users in Malaysia? This brings up an interesting question: How many of the top twitter users are popular in Malaysia? Some might be more popular with an international following, than locally.
- How do you define an active Twitter user? Tweet once a day at least? Once a week at least? Every other day?
- Several corporate accounts have presumably multiple users. Do you count user accounts or users?
* There is no conclusive answer yet. I will be updating this post frequently.
If you like this article, retweet it lah!
Or follow me on Twitter @joshlim
Sometime back, I posted pics from The Malaysian Dreamgirl Season 2 finale at the Curve. Here are the rest of them. Better late than too damn late, right?
Let’s start with the opening evening wear.
Must say that these were quite nice. Especially the green weave dress.
Traditional wear…
For some reason, some of the girls are nicer to shoot than others. I think you can see why.
Economics and international business graduate Dawn Lim Yeen Sze, 23, is happy and expressive. With a ridiculously cute smile (AND SUPER DIMPLES OMG!) like that she can make you forget for a while about all the heartbreak, sadness, economic turmoil, war and pandemic flu in the world, for a while at least. You want to pat her on the head and ruffle her soft spiky hair and give her a big hug.
I don’t really watch the show, but based on her sheer niceability of how she turned out in photos, I was rooting for her to win. Later on while Googling, I found out she was a fellow Lim as well. Hokkien heritage FTW! I do hope we’re not related though…
Behold, I present you -The many faces of Dawn Lim Yean Sze:
Dawn is hot & sweet (like a fresh Original Glazed Krispy Kreme Donut).
Dawn is awesomeness in a 170cm, 49 KG frame.
(Which is close to a perfect BMI [Body Mass Index]. I believe as a rule, Asians should subtract 2-3 KG from the charts. Because Americans developed the BMI system, and Americans are seriously FAT lards.)
I don’t know why she only finished as second runner up. Countless innocent lives are lost everyday, only 5% of the world controls 90% of it’s wealth, those with power are immune to prosecution for their crimes, and Dawn Lim did not win Malaysian Dreamgirl Season 2. Such is the nature of injustice in this world.
…
Anyway, here are some of the people I met at the event!
Elvanna Raine
Some of the people at the event, including Kim, Rachel, Cynthia, Yvonne Sim, Tim, and the crew from Ruumz.
Ean (of the Hitz.fm Breakfast Show with Ean & JJ) mentioned that he reads my blog.
Now I know that at least two radio DJs from Hitz.fm are reading my blog.Speaking of which, if you’re wondering what’s with the picture on the left? It’s not just another random hot chick, I have found out recently that she reads this blog too. Cool. Go check her out.
Now, back to our regular programming…
Here are some lovely pairings of hot women:
The HP round of the show, which showcased technology. Although the HP Mini Vivienne Tam edition is beautiful, unfortunately, I think people may not have been paying much attention to the items in the model’s hands:
Some pics from later. The skirts were really short. Some commented that they could see the girls pulling down their skirts as they were walking.
No wonder some opted for tights, but that isn’t really being very thoughtful of your audience la.
Dawn so cute right?
And…anyway, towards the end:
Above: Pinky Liew getting her prizes, as 1st Runner up. Okay la, but I would rather Dawn have taken yours or Juanita’s place.
It’ll be interesting if Pinky has sisters. Then her parents can name the rest of the children after the rest of the finger names:
Pinky Liew, Thumb Liew, Middle Liew, Ring Liew, Index Liew.
Sorry, I couldn’t resist.
It’s interesting how beauty pageants / reality shows are so conducive in making anyone, even nice people like your Mom & Dad able to make snap judgements of anyone.They might be nice people in real life with parents and people that love them, but a big part of the ‘fun’ for the audience in this kind of shows is viciously passing judgement based on shallow intepretations of personality or beauty based on what is seen for a short period of time.
You know deep down in your heart that that is absolutely true, and you are an evil human being for thinking like that. Shame on you. But it’s so fun right? Hahaha.
Juanita who won, which I still don’t know how you won. I wonder if you two are related, and how much you spend on SMS.
After the show:
And lastly, some misc pics, and some the people I met after the event for drinks. Yes, I was there at The Curve until really late.
Okay, that’s it. Sekian, terima kasih.
I Will Give Up My Virginity For an Ipod Nano from Ruumz!
General April 24th, 2009
So My iPod Shuffle Caught Fire…
General, Sharing April 20th, 2009
So yeah. I already have not one, but two iPods…why would I need a new one? Well…
Sad right?
As you can see, this one exploded in my bag. It still works, but it’s unsightly. Which kind of defeats the point of an Apple product, which is supposed to look nice (the justification for the ridiculous price premium).
This works…ONLY if I keep it plugged in. You see, the non-replacable battery has died. It will only work for 3-5 minutes before dying. So it’s a very stylish portable hard disk, essentially. With a screen.
New iPod Nano: Nice right?
Which is why I would like new iPod Nano lah.
Btw: A few of you will probably wonder whether I am eligible to participate since Advertlets is running Ruumz ads. I checked the terms and conditions. Suppliers can. Just to be safe, I also asked the people at Ruumz, and they said can.
So, blog reader, this is where you can help. With just a click and a few keystrokes, you can held amend my misfortunes with my iPod’s so far….read on about this awesome Ruumz thing:
Why should you join Ruumz? (besides the fact that I asked you to:)
Here is the first reason…you can engage in deep, meaningful conversation with total strangers!
Actual screenshot.
…You can scare yourself to death with the disproportionately large amount of horror/gore movie trailers available at the movieruum!
Horrorfying wei.
…You can find your future wife using the All Ruumzsters Search function! *Disclaimer: RuumzNation Sdn Bhd and Josh Lim is not responsible if they don’t layan you.
Wah, ruumz got so many pretty girls one.
…You can keep track of important events, like my birthday!
Must remember okay?
So many good reasons right?Help me win okay! Sign up for Ruumz through this link, and you can Be My Ruumate! ™
The first question ever for the Ask Josh blog advice column has been submitted, and here it is!
Dear Josh,
What do I do if I find out that I’m losing sexual interest in my gf?
While she keeps coming on for me?
Yours, Desireless Dude in Damansara
Josh responds:
Sigh, of course the first question HAS to be about sex. Anyway:
I bet you're as sexy as these guys. No wonder your girlfriend cannot resist you.
First, let me say that this seems to be a rather uncommon problem, but not an impossible one.
And for most couples, it’s the other way around. Also, quite a lot of guys are probably jealous of you.
But anyway, there are a few things that can be done. To narrow down the scope a little, I’m going to assume a few things to answer your question:
- You intend to fulfill your duties as a boyfriend, and give her the badabing badabang that she deserves.
- You intend to continue in the relationship.
- You’re not allowed to get her female friends to join in.
- You do not intend to ‘outsource’ your duties.
- You’re not comfortable with the idea of her finding it elsewhere.
- You do not have erectile disfunction, and it’s a mental thing.
- I’m also assuming that she hasn’t suddenly become unattractive (eg gained lots of weight or doesn’t dress up anymore), but rather that your disinterest is the byproduct of a long term relationship.
There are a few things you can do as a couple:
For her to read:
Holly Jean, a fellow blogger has some good advice on how you can get your man started. This should be recommended reading for all females. It’s not your fault that your man is not turned on, but you can up the chance by:
- ‘Granny panties’ are a no-no. Put in some effort.
- Don’t expect him to be turned on immediately.
- Shouting ‘get it up! get it up!’ won’t work, and has the opposite effect. Be patient.
- Lick his ear.
Now, for you two to discuss as a couple:
Have you talked with your girlfriend what turns you on?
- Try it in the morning. It’s possible that by the end of the day you’re just too tired. And well, ‘morning wood‘ is a common thing, so you’re already like prepared.
- Variate. Without elaborating, let’s just say there’s more than one way to do it la.
- What I like to call, buffet style. Since she’s ‘always on’, ask her to give this a try: You just lay yourself out, and she helps herself to what’s there.
- Eliminate or enhance senses: Have you tried it in a sauna, a freezing air conditioned room, or totally blindfolded?
- Set a time limit: Ever wondered what you can do in 10 minutes? Set an egg timer or an alarm, and try to finish before time runs out! You know what they say about work - you can’t get it done unless you set a deadline.
- Roleplay: Have you ever considered this - you and your girlfriend go out in seperate cars, meet at some club, pretend it’s the first time you’re meeting each other, and then take her home as if it’s a one night stand? *
* I have tried this. It went very well, but at the end of the night she was tired and just went to sleep, destroying the point of the whole damn exercise. Sigh.
And for you:
Although this picture makes it harder, keep in mind the first tip. You must resist. Save it for when it counts.
Let’s just say that basically for men it’s a bit harder la - you must be ‘activated’ in order for the intercourse to happen. Here are a few tips to make sure you can stand up and be a man when it counts:
- Don’t self service. Really. While semen is like saliva (it won’t run out, did you know?), you’re less likely to be able to perform with a partner if you keep doing solo performances.
- Exercise. Improve your bloodflow. If you can’t find the time to exercise, fun physical activities like paintball, or capoeira, or futsal may work out well for you.
- Remember. Think back to a time when you were really turned on, and why, and recall it when you need to. Was it the situation? Were her parents in the next room? Was it her smell?
- Lastly - if you still just can’t get it up, there’s no reason why she should be left hanging. Just do what you can (be imaginative) and make sure she’s taken care of. Even if it takes you longer that way. Do it well enough, and she won’t mind that she’s not getting ‘full service’. Be a man, and do the right thing!
Desireless Dude in Damansara…hope this helps!
Blog readers, if you have any tips to contribute, feel free to add it in the comments.
Yours advicingly,
Josh.
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Dealing With Idiots Who Can’t Park Properly
General, Sharing March 30th, 2009
The ultimate solution, from the brilliant XKCD.com
Saw this recently (above). Reminds me of about a month back when I got stuck because two cars double parked in front of me, and neither of them inconsiderate idiots left their phone numbers. Horning repeatedly or paging for the car owners didn’t help. So, how did I eventually get out?
Dear Josh.my Blog readers, here’s a challenge for you!
What would you do?
So what do you think…how would you get your car out if you were in the same situation?
Notes for you:
- None of the cars, or motorcycles pictured were damaged in the incident (although I can’t say that I didn’t feel like doing it to those two cars…)
- Neither of the drivers left their phone numbers
- Handbrakes on both cars are on.
- No point paging the car owner, they never showed up
- Idiot #2’s driver side car window is slightly open
- Width of the gap is equivalent to the width of my car
- No, cannot carry the car (My car is not a Kancil). None of the cars were carried.
- There are about 2-3 more people that can help you if needed.
- No additional tools were used besides hands.
- No tow trucks were involved.
Leave your answer in the comments!
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