I read some disturbing news in my Facebook feed, and clicked it. In summary, here’s what happened. Most of the official articles are in Chinese, and some people are adding unnecessary details. Here’s just the facts in summary.

Just the facts:

  • A 22 year old (Born 22nd May 1988) , ALVISS KONG (Jiangshi Feng (IT staff) committed suicide by jumping off the 14th floor of Ketumbar Heights, Cheras.
  • Before commiting suicide, he posted a note to his Facebook profile page. Prior to jumping, he took one last photo and even posted a message 45 minutes before.
  • From the note, it can be inferred that he no longer wanted to live after his girlfriend broke up with him.
  • Alviss Kong ‘s body damaged a car upon impact, and he lay bleeding until emergency services took him to the hospital.
  • He was pronounced dead at 9AM on the morning of December 10th.
  • He lived on the 5th floor of the same apartment, and has a brother and a sister
  • Prior to jumping off the 14th floor, he went to a tea stall near his apartment.
  • Both Alviss Kong and his girlfriend had blogs.
  • They had been together for 4 months, and this was Alviss’s second, and last relationship.
  • From a source on FB, I found out that Alviss Kong used to work in Berjaya Times Square. He also used to go clubbing a lot, and he liked to wear a plaster on his face as a fashion statement.

There’s a tragic amount of disrespectful comments in the FB page and some of the forums and blogs from “keyboard warriors”, unfortunately. If you’re reading this, please don’t add to it. I thought this tweet summarizes it pretty well: http://www.twitlonger.com/show/7daaj8

On Thursday 9th December 2010,  said:
People~ please respect the late alviss kong,4 months doesn’t mean that the love is nt deep,respect by nt saying him dumb or what,n fr u guys who wanna scold or slap the girl,for what?it’s nt even her wrong n we outsiders will nvr know what’s the real prob between them~

Screenshot from Alviss Kong’s blog. It’s closed now, but the Google Cache is available:

It’s quite sad reading about Alviss Kong’s perfect day with her (clubbing, school, etc) especially knowing what happened.

http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:XlRM3e787ZoJ:alvisskong.blogspot.com/2010/08/unforgettable.html+lowyat+alviss&cd=6&hl=en&ct=clnk

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Alviss Kong's Perfect, Unforgettable Day

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My thoughts:

This is particularly depressing for me given that Alviss is quite likely someone I have probably met or seen while clubbing. Someone that I have 15 mutual friends with on Facebook. And he’s a blogger. A girl in my Facebook list wrote on her wall about how she was very happy to have been his friend, as she used to club with him and he always had a “cute plaster” on his face, and spend late nights talking on the phone with him and sharing secrets. It’s especially sad knowing that Alviss was a fashionable, good looking guy, had lots of friends and people to talk to (judging from his pics, Facebook profile and blog posts) – but still chose to commit suicide.

I know we’ve all ‘been there’. Where you just want to turn the off switch. It really isn’t the way to go about it.

Please if you’re even thinking of suicide. There’s always a way out. And really. There will always be other girls.

Please do give them a call before you do anything – this is a counselling/suicide prevention hotline.

http://www.befrienders.org.my/

sam@befrienders.org.my

03-79568144 or 03-79568145

Rest in peace, Alviss.



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  2. wintergurl | December 10th, 2010 at 12:06 pm

    Rest in peace .
    yea … four months relationship doesn’t mean the relationship not deep ….nobody know his feeling …Rest in peace .

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    [...] * A 22 year old (Born 22nd May 1988) , ALVISS KONG (Jiangshi Feng (IT staff) committed suicide by jumping off the 14th floor of Ketumbar Heights, Cheras. * Before commiting suicide, he posted a note to his Facebook profile page. Prior to jumping, he took one last photo and even posted a message 45 minutes before. * From the note, it can be inferred that he no longer wanted to live after his girlfriend broke up with him. * Alviss Kong ’s body damaged a car upon impact, and he lay bleeding until emergency services took him to the hospital. * He was pronounced dead at 9AM on the morning of December 10th. * He lived on the 5th floor of the same apartment, and has a brother and a sister * Prior to jumping off the 14th floor, he went to a tea stall near his apartment. * Both Alviss Kong and his girlfriend had blogs. * They had been together for 4 months, and this was Alviss’s second, and last relationship. * From a source on FB, I found out that Alviss Kong used to work in Berjaya Times Square. He also used to go clubbing a lot, and he liked to wear a plaster on his face as a fashion statement. -  sumber [...]

  5. Lolness | December 13th, 2010 at 12:47 pm

    I thought i was reading the gf’s blog when i opened the first link -.- so freaking pinkish ._.

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  6. spook | April 17th, 2011 at 9:53 pm

    It reminds me where i should put my hope carefully.To me, the definition of hope is to put my trust in something/someone to give me a sense of security, pleasure, etc.If my hope is based on something/someone that is temporary and uncertain, most likely i’ll ended up being stressful and sorrowful instead.Somebody taught me that.

    I wish somebody could turn back the clock and stop him before he jump.

    P.S:Nice blog, Josh:)

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