So lately there’ve been lots of event pics and parties on this blog.  I guess you guys seem to like them, as this blog by yours truly recently made it to the top 100 blogs in Malaysia. Woot! And it’s now number #69, nice number. Not bad considering this blog started just on 6 Jan 2009.

While I do try my best to take effort in writing detailed event overviews, introducing the people that I take pictures of and try to take nice pictures of them, even Photoshopping off their pimples (see I’m so thoughtful), the whole thing still strikes me as kind of shallow.

When I started this blog, I intended that besides keeping my readers entertained, I would also be able to make them think, and at the very most pretentiously ideal, hope that I can spark a wave of more intellectual blogging.

So, it’s time to plumb the depths. Time to get emo-emo. Time to think think.

This picture isn't entirely related to the post. But it is pretty damn funny la.

So, I haven’t been getting as many questions that I have wanted for the Ask Josh section.

Or actually, the problems I’m getting are way too specific, and I cannot post them up because then people would know exactly who the problem asker is. Some are bloggers. Hehe. Of course, cannot reveal who la.

So, in an effort to create more submissions for the Ask Josh section, I am presenting you…Problems That You May Not Know You Have!

Please take this as a thought exercise - not all these cases are based on real life people that I have encountered. In an effort to make this different from the usual Ask Josh posts, I offer no solutions whatsoever to the problem in this post (I may later), but rather, would want to spur my blog readers to discuss this further.

* I realise this may be a bit cruel, or create unnecessary problems. So, please do not read the following items below if you are currently dating someone, or in a relationship, or married or wish to remain blissfully ignorant. Thank you!

So, have you stopped to think that:

All the same one.

Your partner doesn’t ‘like you just the way you are’, but rather ‘fethisizes’ your type.

For example, let’s say you are overweight. Have you considered that perhaps he doesn’t like you in spite of you being fat, but because you are fat. There’s nothing wrong with liking people that are ‘different’ than stereotypical society’s perception of beauty, but what if he ONLY felt attracted to irregular standards of beauty?

It’s like the difference between your partner saying that ‘you have nice feet’, and your partner having a ‘foot fetish’.

Would you feel disturbed if he was of normal weight, and ONLY dated obese women? All his girlfriends so far have been obese. Let’s say he’s 5′8, 65KG, and he only dated girls who are 80KG (and below 5′6) and above.

Why this is scary: Imagine all of your partner’s ex-girlfriends in a room together. He doesn’t like you, but likes the idea of your type.

What do you think...true?

You are boring and wooden (but reliable), and your girlfriend is servicing her emotional needs elsewhere

Let’s say you’re an ace in bed, and very hemsem. Okay la, and you’re also very rich and generous. But somehow your girlfriend feels the need to talk to other men about her deeper thoughts and feelings, because you’re a plank of wood - she doesn’t feel you’re emotionally available or the type that listens. So she calls other people to cry about you. And you don’t know.

Why this is scary: You may be emotionally unavailable your whole life due to this being your fixed, actual personality, and this may become a consistent problem with all your future partners. Because this kind of thing tends to be pretty important among women.

This picture is here because she is hot. And also, turned up in a Flickr search for 'relationship'

You will never be able to date someone better than your current partner.

Most of the time, people never resolve to date someone worse than who they are dating currently. You ‘trade-up’, and don’t aim to lower your standards further as time progresses. But what if you already reached the pinnacle?
Let’s say this guy has a damn chun girlfriend. At an early age, say, 20-22. And he has perhaps the hottest girlfriend he will ever have. She’s like the whole package, beauty, funny, intelligent, caring and everything.

How is this  a problem? There are a few things to worry about here - first thing, this may be the best girl ever, and assuming if there is ever a breakup, no one else will be able to top her, and you will compare
ever partner in future to her. This puts an insane amount of pressure on the relationship. And you know that pressure and relationships don’t go well.

Why this is scary: As above. If you ever break up, then how?How can your heart go on and love?

If you’ve read up to here, I hope you had fun. Have a good week ahead, lol.

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