The Mistress, The BMW, & The Lesson.
Sharing May 12th, 2009
Obviously this isn't her. But posts are always better with a somewhat related picture.
True story. I used to stay rent a room in a rather upscale condo, until of course, I shifted to a reasonably priced place of my own.
The place was a cornocupia of fancy continental, European and Japanese cars. There would be stewardesses waiting for their transport. Plenty of expats. Some celebs. My parking lot was next to this other car - a black BMW. I always wondered who drove it. It had a leather interior and nice, tasteful rims.
One day, after clubbing I found out. She pulled up shortly after me, and we exited our respective cars. Both of us smelt of alcohol, her more than me. Of course, I was below the legal limit. Ahem ahem.
So that was the BMW driver. She was a slim, Malay woman, of average size. Just tall enough to be a stewardess.
We said hi. ‘So you’re the one that parks next to me, etc’. Apparently we lived in the same block, so we went up the lift. Then we sat down for a smoke on a bench outside her unit.
She asked - ‘how old are you’? I replied, ‘23′. (Which I was at the time)
She took a drag, and she said. ‘Well, I’m old. In my thirties already‘. She told a bit more, about how she used to be a stewardess.
And how her boyfriend didn’t want her to continue working as a stewardess. So she quit.
I presume she got the allowance, car, condo and even a maid for her trouble. Yes, she has a maid. She told me too.
Once in a while, there would be a fancy motorbike or another BMW parked. I presume that was her boyfriend. It’s not nice to assume things. But if a guy can provide you all that and he isn’t around all of the time (I would see another fancy motorbike or car occasionally), statisically, what are you most likely to be? Of course -
The M word. Mistress. An unhappy mistress one at that.
She confessed: ‘Everyday, I don’t know what to do. I’ll just go to the mamak, have a teh ais. And that’s it. I’m so bored’.
Remember, this is the first time I’ve ever talked to her, so the disclosure was quite surprising. She said it with the air of a cautionary tale, like ‘don’t make my mistake’. Thinking about it, I don’t think I’ll ever find myself in that situation. It’s extremely unlikely that I ever get a sugar mummy and find myself in her position. Really. But if there’s anything to learn from what she said, the lack of anything to do with your life, even though all your expenses are taken care of, is endlessly boring.
And if she’s telling me, a complete stranger, how lonely is her life? That she lacks someone close to her to talk to about this?
She gave me her number, so I took it. Perhaps she wanted to hang out. I called her once after that, but she wasn’t quite as talkative as she was before. We never did hang out though, perhaps she was just drunk when she gave it to me.
Most stories are supposed to have a point, especially sad ones.
If anything, perhaps, it just goes to show that sometimes the choice that seems like the ‘easy way out’, isn’t always quite that easy.
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perhaps u gonna have one like her when u reach 40 :P..hehe
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Sad. Sad. Sad story. What prompted u to write this post? Seems different from yr regular posts style.
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Melinda: I know right? Well, just remembered it recently, and struck me as odd enough to write about. There might be something to be learnt from it.
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josh,
i would say that..
IT IS ALWAYS THE WOMEN HAVING TO CHANGE THEIR WAY OF LIFE TO FIT THE LIFE OF THE PERSON THEY LOVE.
in the case of the lady you met, she gave up everything just because her bf told her to quit. And like all men, they think that money fixes everything. Sure, money can fix some of the necessities we women need but those are just material things. Although she was living comfortably, she was not happy. I bet when she quit her job, she thought she and the guy would have a better future together but it didn’t turn out that way, did it? She is letting him lead her life when he isn’t even there to be with her through it. He is so selfish!! Ugh! Men!
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It’s sad indeed but sometimes money makes the world go round. Especially women and their unconditional desires.. People would give up happiness in order to live the way they wish they would. Maybe perhaps some love would help but too bad, they are nothing but just a mistress.
I have friends who have friends like this. Unfortunate, but well, rich.
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sorry to say this, but i luv this post.
something tht makes u think u know..of life etc..unlike those posts u normally hv (i’m not saying u should start writing such stuffs frm now on!)
u wrote the story well.. i can feel the emotions she was going thru.
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I think everyone should start by taking responsibility for their happiness and stop blaming the opposite sex or others..Like what josh said, we have to be wise when making decision instead of being shortsighted and focusing only on things that are perishable..
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i wonder who this gal is kena blogged by u!
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ahhh… in her 30’s and she’s not getting a real bf for herself, that’s unwise.
money tells us why, what to do. sigh.
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So this is what it takes to get the girls to comment, haha. I notice all comments here (with the exception of mine), are exclusively female. Hmm.
Anyway, replies:
yomi: Not all men are that bad k!
Sabrina: I think if she had the same ‘arrangement’, but continued working, she’ll be a lot happier. What do you think?
thenomadGoumand: Thanks. More posts like this are on the way. Haha!
see chong: True. I think she made a pretty bad call here, esp to stop work.
Mabel: I don’t even know her name. I wonder if she’ll ever read this.
Ashleyteng: I wonder what combination of circumstance led her to this choice. It’s also quite possible that she really loved the guy.
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Wow, what a experience you have… Perhaps her bf was around on the 2nd time u call her.
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Did you attempt to contact her few more times? Who knows, you get a different story from her.
“I am Terminator from future, har har har.” (ok lame)
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