'Almost too lonely' - From user 'helloeno' on flickr.

Now and then, I like to look through the search queries that led people here. It appears I have some lonely blog readers from all around the world, and some closer to home. Here they are, arranged into related categories. Here they are, with my comments in italics.

Josh Lim Answers Your Google Search Queries: Relationship Edition

What should I do?

1. can i guy like you but want to wait until his life is more together before he dates you

Guys are simpler than that, generally. Perhaps it’s a more polite way of saying ‘no, thanks’.

2. he wants to move on but he wants to keep in touch, why

Keeping you as an secondary option in case his new relationship(s) fails to work out.

3. why do guys keep you around for long but don’t get serious?

See above.

4. why do men keep girls he likes as just friends

See above.

5. inexperienced men who are not into you enough

Making him like you isn’t a matter of experience, it’s a matter of interest. This can’t be taught.

6. what if you know he’s not into you but you can’t get over him

Have you considered, maybe it’s time to go.

7. love problem solving: how to get with a boy, if he’s just finished his ex

It’s actually the easiest time. Go for it.

8. what to do when someone doesn’t want to date you but wants to be yoru best friend

Live with it. Or seduce him.

9. signs he wants you back and is not playing you

If he’s not too smooth, and not too fast and not sounding too desperate, he probably really likes you.

10. signs he’s not that into you but someone else

He doesn’t call you, and if he does talk to you, it’s about her. Simple.

11. signs that he is just keeping you hanging around

There are too many to cover here. But think about it. How did you act the last time you weren’t really interested in someone but wanted to keep the option open? What would you do to sustain someone’s interest just enough to keep them on a leash, but not give too much of yourself?

What should I do?

1. girls asks you back to her place

I hope you didn’t Google for this AFTER you decided to say no. And really - GIRLS? Not just one? Wow.

2. give up virginity
Well, you’re not going to find it by going online…

Looking for Love in the wrong places:

1.  need fucking girl in klang
2. prostitute pricing mid valley
3. elite lesbian pub

I have no comments on the queries above, they speak for themselves.

Some queer queries:

1. how to pleasure yourself if you are gay
The exact same way you do if you were straight would work just fine.

2. how to determine if a straight man likes a gay
I think it’s safe to say he doesn’t.

'Lonely Cherub', from Flickr user lostvegas

I hope you find your answers soon, or that mine helped. Or concile yourself with the fact that they may never be found.

The human genome has be mapped, we may have glimpses of the Higgs-Boson (the God particle), and science will continue to make beautiful & astounding discoveries.

But humans are simply flesh covered receptacles of random chemicals, meat and emotions that will not always make rational or understandable decisions.

There is no set definition of ‘love’, it varies in context and meaning from person to person. You do not get what you put in, emotional investment does not guarantee a reciprocation or return on investment.

There are no easy answers, but knowing that there is no definite answer to the question you might have, makes it easier to give up on that one and find a new way to feel better about yourself.

Let’s end with a very short poem that I found recently. I thought it was pretty moving.

I can write the saddest lines tonight. I loved her, sometimes she loved me too.

~ Pablo Neruda